When Your MasterMind Partner Points Out You Have a Big But…aka Week 17 of the Master Key Experience

To say that I adore my MasterMind partner Naila would be an understatement.  I’m in awe of how similar we are and how we were brought together through the Master Keys Master Mind Alliance.  A MasterMind partner is someone who will hold you accountable and tell you things you need to hear, even if you don’t want to hear them.  That person also holds a vision of your vision to help add energy and focus to it.

So why did Naila tell me I had a big but?  Well, she didn’t mean physically, thankfully!    Today was one of those rough days where so much cement was sloughing off, yet I kept putting it back on.  How was I doing that?  By saying the word “but” with every positive statement I said.  “I’m doing the right stuff, but nothing’s happening.” “I’m supposed to be the leader, but I feel like such an impostor.” “I want to reach this goal, but I’m afraid I won’t make it by the deadline I set for myself.”  You get the picture…

Naila asked could she point out something to me, and once I agreed, she said she had been counting the “buts” I’d been saying and had counted 6 in the past few minutes.  And here I was thinking that “uhs” were annoying.  Those “buts” are even more annoying.

Argue for your limitations and they’re yours.  It’s like two steps forward and one step back.  There’s forward motion, but it’s tiny.  So now I am aware of how many “buts” I use in my daily language speaking, and probably countless more in my head thinking.  If y’all catch me saying “but”, you have my permission to point it out to me as I’m rewriting my blueprint.

Speaking of permission, that was a word Mark used in Sunday’s webinar that grabbed my attention.  How often do we not give ourselves permission to do what we really want?  As one of the GRITS (Girls Raised In The South), I was a diligent rule follower.  I obey the speed limit.  I don’t stray often out of the box.  I did what my teachers asked of me.  Even this week as I slipped up on one of my daily MKMMA activities (my first), I sobbed because of the guilt of not following things exactly as I was supposed to.  Perfectionist much?  Why am I so hard on myself?  I have no problem granting grace to others…why can I not grant it to myself?

So this week, I gave myself permission in several ways.  On a morning where I still felt tired when my alarm went off and I didn’t have to be anywhere specific (thank you, snow days!), I verbally gave myself permission to sleep another hour and the day went so much better than if I’d pushed through without additional rest.  I gave myself permission to be successful and happy.  And I found recordings and videos that brought forth those feelings for me.  I gave myself permission to be myself.  What does that mean?  Well, I’m still discovering that, but (it almost slipped through!) and I give myself permission to take the journey and be raw, open, and vulnerable about what that looks like (future blog coming!).

We’re adults now!  We can give ourselves permission to live beyond the labels that were put on us or we adopted unknowingly.  To move forward toward that vision we want our lives to become.  In fact, we’re the ONLY ones who can give ourselves that permission.  No one else can.

So if you’re a chronic rule follower like I have been, give yourself permission to do whatever you dream!  It’s possible!